When Survival Isn’t a Phase, It’s a Lifestyle You Never Asked For
This week’s Refashionista Rant dives straight into the gritty truth that so many of us live quietly…the truth behind what “working hard” really looks like when you’re doing it alone, unsupported, under pressure, and still somehow expected to smile through it all.
Survival mode isn’t dramatic. It’s daily life for millions of women.
And today, I’m talking about my version of it.
I’ll be unpacking:
• What survival mode actually looks like behind the scenes: Years of working nonstop with no safety net, no family support, and no one to catch me when I fall.
• The emotional and financial toll of chasing success while struggling to pay rent: Trying to build a stable life while clawing my way through bills, debt, and constant uncertainty.
• The personal cost of doing everything alone: Making every decision, managing every crisis, parenting and pushing forward even when I’m running on fumes.
• Why “just try harder” is a cruel lie: Because effort isn’t the issue. The system is.
• How survival mode changes your brain, habits, and sense of self: The long-term effects that people never talk about out loud.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
Because too many of us carry this weight quietly.
Because people assume “if you’re online, you must be doing fine.”
Because it’s impossible to refashion your wardrobe without learning how to refashion your life too.
And because the truth is powerful, especially when we share it:
Join the Conversation
Drop your thoughts in the comments on the live replay. Whether you’re in survival mode, clawing your way out of it, or trying to make sense of a world that keeps demanding more from people who already give everything… you’re not alone here.
And if you’re new around here, welcome to Refashionista Rants:
LIVE, honest talks about life unraveled and restitched.
See you next Sunday at 4pm EST
Come for the real talk.
Stay for the community that understands the truth behind the struggle.
