It’s absolutely fantastic that I’m able to share my creative tutorials with the world, encourage others to embrace sustainable style and reach such a large audience, unfortunately becoming popular online also comes with its fair share of ew mixed in with lurv.
Here’s how I deal with it:
It is incredibly bizarre that so many people think it is completely acceptable to take out their aggressions on strangers on the internet. The unnecessary and ridiculous messages I receive are not always cruel in nature but they are most definitely aggressive, occur on daily basis and have included everything from disbelief that I am as “old as 41″ and demands of proof of my age to self-described helpful souls who just want to let me know that I’m too old to be doing this & look like a fool and even anonymous photos of hilariously ridiculous male genitalia – seriously men, it’s absurd to think your goofy tackle is photogenic.
Luckily I have a rather awesome sense of humour and most of time can easily have a laugh at the insanity. Such is life in the public eye of the internet – unsurprisingly a phenomenon that targets many more women online than men.
I do have my fair share of cruel comments, some days opening my e-mail is quite horrible, however all it really means is that I’m becoming more well-known online which is not a bad thing at all as my message is being seen & shared by enough people to start bringing the attention of those sad, lonely trolls who have nothing better to do but try to rip others apart with sh*tty anonymous comments to make themselves feel better about their own depressing lives. I simply don’t publish those hostile comments, answer the e-mails or respond to the messages left on my social media.
My blog is my home online and as I wouldn’t allow strangers to come into my house and shout hate at my face or wave their schlongs about I most certainly won’t let them do it on my Confessions of a Refashionista.
Mark Manson wrote an absolutely brilliant must-read article on the fine art of not giving a f*ck – read it:
So, how can you deal with the unwanted idiocy? By giving your own mental health & well-being priority and not giving a flying f*ck + throwing out a few mental one finger salutes when neccessary.
For some reason people online seem to be more eager to share their hostile disapproval than thoughtful encouragement, however a positive comment goes a long way to cancelling out the negative BS so give your fave bloggers a boost, it’s as easy as 1 – 2 – 3!
1. Comment. I don’t think there’s anyone online who doesn’t appreciate a kind comment, especially when so many of us are the victims of trolls. Let bloggers know that you enjoy what they do and acknowledge their hard work – it’s an awesome feeling to discover that our creativity and dedication is indeed helping others and not going unnoticed.
2. Like. It takes less than a second of your time to hit that little like button but it really does go a long way in this fast-paced online world and can even help push those all important behind the scenes stats!
3. Share the posts you love with your own online circles and encourage others to do the same.
With my behind the scenes of blogging series I hope to not only shed some honest light on the topic(s) for beginner-bloggers but also let readers know exactly what goes into creating the blogs they enjoy (& expect frequent new content from) yet somehow can’t find the time to let the people behind blogs know that they appreciate what they do – for free.